Learn skills that make life with children easier and more satisfying with
HOW TO TALK SO KIDS WILL LISTEN
by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
The goal of the HOW TO TALK SO KIDS WILL LISTEN, parent education, six-part workbook and video tape series is to give you practical, effective methods of communication that will make your relationship with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.
You'll learn how to:
~Help your child develop a realistic and positive self-image
~Set limits while maintaining goodwill
~Cope with your child's negative feelings
~Express anger without hurting
~Engage your child's willing cooperation
~Resolve conflicts peacefully
~Create a family atmosphere of love and respect
The sessions cover:
1. Helping Children Deal With Their Feelings. Exploration of what happens to children when their feelings are denied. Specific skills that help children to recognize and cope with their negative feelings - disappointment, envy, frustration, resentment, anger, etc. Ways to accept children's feelings, limit unacceptable behavior, and still maintain goodwill.
2. Engaging Cooperation. How children react to the usual methods to get them to cooperate: threats, warnings, orders, name-calling, sarcasm, lecturing, etc. Five ways to invite cooperation that will leave parents and children feeling good about themselves and each other.
3. Alternatives To Punishment. How do children react to punishment? Is it necessary to rely upon punishment as a means of discipline? Some alternatives to punishment that enable parents to express their strong disapproval as well as encourage children to assume responsibility for their behavior.
4. Encouraging Autonomy. Ways to help children become separate, responsible people who can one day function on their own. Specific skills that help children to develop their own inner resources.
5. Praise. An exploration of the kinds of praise that build a positive and realistic self image-and the kinds that do not. A variety of ways to help our children become aware of their strengths so that they can put them into action.
6. Freeing Children From Playing Roles. A look at how children are sometimes cast into roles (bully, whiner, dawdler, mischief-maker, etc.) and how we can free them from playing out these roles. Six skills that you can use to help children see themselves in a different and more positive light.
The HOW TO TALK SO KIDS WILL LISTEN workbook and video tape series is a wonderful opportunity for parents to learn and share important parenting techniques and it is available for sign-out, free-of-charge through the counselor's office. For more information, please contact Diane Zeiger, Counselor, Highland Telephone Number 901-9860.